Friday, December 7, 2012
Presidential Approval Ratings -- Barack Obama by Charles E. Milder
Presidential Approval Ratings -- Barack Obama
How stupid are people? This man does not know what truth is. Obama has put the Country into more debt than all of the past President's combined. I have no doubt that Obama will go down as the worst President ever to have held the office and that record will stand for thousands of years.
by, Charles E Milder
Wednesday, November 21, 2012
WEB SITE FOR US GOVERNMENT PROPERTY FOR SALE by Charles E Milder
Here is the web site for all US Government property for sale:
http://homesales.gov/homesales/mainAction.do
by Charles E Milder
http://homesales.gov/homesales/mainAction.do
by Charles E Milder
Friday, November 2, 2012
Met-Ed Sucks by Charles E. Milder
Met-Ed (First Energy) Sucks. During Hurricane Sandy they did not answer their phones and the published information on the web was a bunch of bullshit that was not up to date. Avoid the creeps like they have the plague and if you come across an employee tell them Charles E. Milder said he hopes they go to hell. by Charles E. Milder
Wednesday, October 17, 2012
Why are you not taking advantage of the wealth of knowledge that exist in books? by Charles E. Milder
Why are you not taking advantage of the wealth of knowledge that exist in books?
Over 100 billion people have lived on earth. Is it possible that there were people smarter than you that lived before you? If you would agree the answer is yes then is it possible that some of those people wrote books about how to improve life on this planet? If you would agree the answer is yes then the question becomes why are you not taking advantage of the wealth of knowledge that exist in books to improve your life?
Read James Allen's book, "As A Man Thinketh" it will change your life.
Best Wishes, Charles E. Milder
Over 100 billion people have lived on earth. Is it possible that there were people smarter than you that lived before you? If you would agree the answer is yes then is it possible that some of those people wrote books about how to improve life on this planet? If you would agree the answer is yes then the question becomes why are you not taking advantage of the wealth of knowledge that exist in books to improve your life?
Read James Allen's book, "As A Man Thinketh" it will change your life.
Best Wishes, Charles E. Milder
Sunday, October 14, 2012
What is character? by Charles E. Milder
I think most people are "good" at their core; decent, loving, compassionate and kind. However, even those we perceive to be good people are capable of unspeakable acts. How many times have you heard a convicted murderer's family member or friend say, "I just can't believe he would be capable of something like that. It's so unlike him." The killer projected one identity to the world, while secretly he was someone else entirely.
Okay, most of us are not murderers. Yet, even those of us who would be considered "good people" often think nothing of stealing, cheating on our spouses, or worse. What does that say about our character? Is it wrong only if we get caught?
How many times have you done something that you probably wouldn't have done if others had been there to see it? Would you feel embarrassed if these things were brought to public awareness? Did you act on your impulses only because you felt sure no one would ever find out?
I've been thinking a lot about the concept of "sin" lately. What is sin exactly? In the Christian religion, sin refers to that which displeases (or dishonors) God. The Ten Commandments warn us against adultery, theft, murder and more. Supposedly if you follow that list, you will remain in God's good graces.
In some earth religions, there is only one commandment: Harm None; which basically covers all angles in two words. Do nothing that would cause harm to yourself or another. Seems simple enough.
Yet, in both of these examples there are gray areas, aren't there? Sometimes it's hard to tell what's right or wrong. If we find money on the street and pick it up, is that stealing? Does it make a difference if it was $5.00 or $500.00? If we lie to protect someone's feelings, is that wrong? If we take some paper clips home from the office, is that stealing? Does it "harm" the company, really? If we flirt with someone other than our spouse, or fantasize about them, is that cheating? Or is cheating only the physical act of sexual intercourse?
In situations like these, how do we know the right course of action? How do we balance integrity with our impulses and desires? I think it can help to examine your motives and the possible consequences. What is your intent in this situation? What do you hope to gain from it? Could your actions harm another, or yourself? If your actions became public knowledge, would you be okay with that?
Maybe some of you are rolling your eyes at me right now, thinking, "What's the big deal? So what if I take a few things from work, or cheat on my wife? What they don't know won't hurt them." That may be true, but doesn't it hurt you in the long run? Don't those actions detract from the kind of person you are? Don't they dim your inner light? If it's true that we are all connected, then isn't it also true that harming another means harming ourselves? By disrespecting others, we disrespect ourselves and God.
Personally, I don't believe that God is angry and judgmental, sitting up in the clouds waiting to cast us into the pits of Hell for our transgressions. I do believe there will be a final "review" of our lives, and we will have to answer for the things we've done. But I think we will be our own judges. In the deepest part of ourselves, we know right from wrong.
We're not perfect, and no one is expecting us to be. We all make mistakes and do things we are later ashamed of. We are human, after all. But there is a big difference between making a mistake, and purposely doing something we know is wrong. We may try to fool ourselves at times and justify our actions. Maybe your husband doesn't pay attention to you, so you try to convince yourself that it's okay to have an affair with a man who does. Or your employer gives you a crappy raise, so you decide to make up for it in other ways, like stealing supplies or fudging your time sheet. They asked for it, right? You certainly have the right to do these things, and probably no one will stop you. Our greatest gift in life is Free Will. Unfortunately, it is also often our greatest curse. There are always consequences to our actions, whether they come now or later.
In the end, it's all a matter of personal accountability. Do we want to be a person of character, or not? It doesn't matter if we get caught or not. What matters is that we are defined by our actions. If I take something that doesn't belong to me, I am a thief. If I cheat on my spouse, I am an adultress. If I don't want to get caught, I probably shouldn't do these things in the first place. The truth has a way of making itself known.
By Charles E Milder
Okay, most of us are not murderers. Yet, even those of us who would be considered "good people" often think nothing of stealing, cheating on our spouses, or worse. What does that say about our character? Is it wrong only if we get caught?
How many times have you done something that you probably wouldn't have done if others had been there to see it? Would you feel embarrassed if these things were brought to public awareness? Did you act on your impulses only because you felt sure no one would ever find out?
I've been thinking a lot about the concept of "sin" lately. What is sin exactly? In the Christian religion, sin refers to that which displeases (or dishonors) God. The Ten Commandments warn us against adultery, theft, murder and more. Supposedly if you follow that list, you will remain in God's good graces.
In some earth religions, there is only one commandment: Harm None; which basically covers all angles in two words. Do nothing that would cause harm to yourself or another. Seems simple enough.
Yet, in both of these examples there are gray areas, aren't there? Sometimes it's hard to tell what's right or wrong. If we find money on the street and pick it up, is that stealing? Does it make a difference if it was $5.00 or $500.00? If we lie to protect someone's feelings, is that wrong? If we take some paper clips home from the office, is that stealing? Does it "harm" the company, really? If we flirt with someone other than our spouse, or fantasize about them, is that cheating? Or is cheating only the physical act of sexual intercourse?
In situations like these, how do we know the right course of action? How do we balance integrity with our impulses and desires? I think it can help to examine your motives and the possible consequences. What is your intent in this situation? What do you hope to gain from it? Could your actions harm another, or yourself? If your actions became public knowledge, would you be okay with that?
Maybe some of you are rolling your eyes at me right now, thinking, "What's the big deal? So what if I take a few things from work, or cheat on my wife? What they don't know won't hurt them." That may be true, but doesn't it hurt you in the long run? Don't those actions detract from the kind of person you are? Don't they dim your inner light? If it's true that we are all connected, then isn't it also true that harming another means harming ourselves? By disrespecting others, we disrespect ourselves and God.
Personally, I don't believe that God is angry and judgmental, sitting up in the clouds waiting to cast us into the pits of Hell for our transgressions. I do believe there will be a final "review" of our lives, and we will have to answer for the things we've done. But I think we will be our own judges. In the deepest part of ourselves, we know right from wrong.
We're not perfect, and no one is expecting us to be. We all make mistakes and do things we are later ashamed of. We are human, after all. But there is a big difference between making a mistake, and purposely doing something we know is wrong. We may try to fool ourselves at times and justify our actions. Maybe your husband doesn't pay attention to you, so you try to convince yourself that it's okay to have an affair with a man who does. Or your employer gives you a crappy raise, so you decide to make up for it in other ways, like stealing supplies or fudging your time sheet. They asked for it, right? You certainly have the right to do these things, and probably no one will stop you. Our greatest gift in life is Free Will. Unfortunately, it is also often our greatest curse. There are always consequences to our actions, whether they come now or later.
In the end, it's all a matter of personal accountability. Do we want to be a person of character, or not? It doesn't matter if we get caught or not. What matters is that we are defined by our actions. If I take something that doesn't belong to me, I am a thief. If I cheat on my spouse, I am an adultress. If I don't want to get caught, I probably shouldn't do these things in the first place. The truth has a way of making itself known.
By Charles E Milder
Tuesday, September 25, 2012
JOURNEY OF LIFE by Charles E. Milder
Life is a journey filled with lessons, hardships, heartaches, joys, celebrations and special moments that will ultimately lead us to our destination, our purpose in life. The road will not always be smooth; in fact, throughout our travels, we will encounter many challenges.
Some of these challenges will test our courage, strengths, weaknesses, and faith. Along the way, we may stumble upon obstacles that will come between the paths that we are destined to take. In order to follow the right path, we must overcome these obstacles. Sometimes these obstacles are really blessings in disguise, only we don't realize that at the time.
Along our journey we will be confronted with many situations, some will be filled with joy, and some will be filled with heartache. How we react to what we are faced with determines what kind of outcome the rest of our journey through life will be like.
When things don't always go our way, we have two choices in dealing with the situations. We can focus on the fact that things didn't go how we had hoped they would and let life pass us by, or two, we can make the best out of the situation and know that these are only temporary setbacks and find the lessons that are to be learned.
Time stops for no one, and if we allow ourselves to focus on the negative we might miss out on some really amazing things that life has to offer. We can't go back to the past, we can only take the lessons that we have learned and the experiences that we have gained from it and move on. It is because of the heartaches, as well as the hardships, that in the end help to make us a stronger person.
The people that we meet on our journey, are people that we are destined to meet. Everybody comes into our lives for some reason or another and we don't always know their purpose until it is too late. They all play some kind of role. Some may stay for a lifetime; others may only stay for a short while.
It is often the people who stay for only a short time that end up making a lasting impression not only in our lives, but in our hearts as well. Although we may not realize it at the time, they will make a difference and change our lives in a way we never could imagine. To think that one person can have such a profound affect on your life forever is truly a blessing. It is because of these encounters that we learn some of life's best lessons and sometimes we even learn a little bit about ourselves.
People will come and go into our lives quickly, but sometimes we are lucky to meet that one special person that will stay in our hearts forever no matter what. Even though we may not always end up being with that person and they may not always stay in our life for as long as we like, the lessons that we have learned from them and the experiences that we have gained from meeting that person, will stay with us forever.
It's these things that will give us strength to continue on with our journey. We know that we can always look back on those times of our past and know that because of that one individual, we are who we are and we can remember the wonderful moments that we have shared with that person.
Memories are priceless treasures that we can cherish forever in our hearts. They also enables us to continue on with our journey for whatever life has in store for us. Sometimes all it takes is one special person to help us look inside ourselves and find a whole different person that we never knew existed. Our eyes are suddenly opened to a world we never knew existed- a world where time is so precious and moments never seem to last long enough.
Throughout this adventure, people will give you advice and insights on how to live your life but when it all comes down to it, you must always do what you feel is right. Always follow your heart, and most importantly never have any regrets. Don't hold anything back. Say what you want to say, and do what you want to do, because sometimes we don't get a second chance to say or do what we should have the first time around.
It is often said that what doesn't kill you will make you stronger. It all depends on how one defines the word "strong" It can have different meanings to different people. In this sense, "stronger" means looking back at the person you were and comparing it to the person you have become today. It also means looking deep into your soul and realizing that the person you are today couldn't exist if it weren't for the things that have happened in the past or for the people that you have met. Everything that happens in our life happens for a reason and sometimes that means we must face heartaches in order to experience joy.
by Charles E. Milder
Some of these challenges will test our courage, strengths, weaknesses, and faith. Along the way, we may stumble upon obstacles that will come between the paths that we are destined to take. In order to follow the right path, we must overcome these obstacles. Sometimes these obstacles are really blessings in disguise, only we don't realize that at the time.
Along our journey we will be confronted with many situations, some will be filled with joy, and some will be filled with heartache. How we react to what we are faced with determines what kind of outcome the rest of our journey through life will be like.
When things don't always go our way, we have two choices in dealing with the situations. We can focus on the fact that things didn't go how we had hoped they would and let life pass us by, or two, we can make the best out of the situation and know that these are only temporary setbacks and find the lessons that are to be learned.
Time stops for no one, and if we allow ourselves to focus on the negative we might miss out on some really amazing things that life has to offer. We can't go back to the past, we can only take the lessons that we have learned and the experiences that we have gained from it and move on. It is because of the heartaches, as well as the hardships, that in the end help to make us a stronger person.
The people that we meet on our journey, are people that we are destined to meet. Everybody comes into our lives for some reason or another and we don't always know their purpose until it is too late. They all play some kind of role. Some may stay for a lifetime; others may only stay for a short while.
It is often the people who stay for only a short time that end up making a lasting impression not only in our lives, but in our hearts as well. Although we may not realize it at the time, they will make a difference and change our lives in a way we never could imagine. To think that one person can have such a profound affect on your life forever is truly a blessing. It is because of these encounters that we learn some of life's best lessons and sometimes we even learn a little bit about ourselves.
People will come and go into our lives quickly, but sometimes we are lucky to meet that one special person that will stay in our hearts forever no matter what. Even though we may not always end up being with that person and they may not always stay in our life for as long as we like, the lessons that we have learned from them and the experiences that we have gained from meeting that person, will stay with us forever.
It's these things that will give us strength to continue on with our journey. We know that we can always look back on those times of our past and know that because of that one individual, we are who we are and we can remember the wonderful moments that we have shared with that person.
Memories are priceless treasures that we can cherish forever in our hearts. They also enables us to continue on with our journey for whatever life has in store for us. Sometimes all it takes is one special person to help us look inside ourselves and find a whole different person that we never knew existed. Our eyes are suddenly opened to a world we never knew existed- a world where time is so precious and moments never seem to last long enough.
Throughout this adventure, people will give you advice and insights on how to live your life but when it all comes down to it, you must always do what you feel is right. Always follow your heart, and most importantly never have any regrets. Don't hold anything back. Say what you want to say, and do what you want to do, because sometimes we don't get a second chance to say or do what we should have the first time around.
It is often said that what doesn't kill you will make you stronger. It all depends on how one defines the word "strong" It can have different meanings to different people. In this sense, "stronger" means looking back at the person you were and comparing it to the person you have become today. It also means looking deep into your soul and realizing that the person you are today couldn't exist if it weren't for the things that have happened in the past or for the people that you have met. Everything that happens in our life happens for a reason and sometimes that means we must face heartaches in order to experience joy.
by Charles E. Milder
The Amazing Saga of Elon Musk by Charles E. Milder
The Amazing Saga of Elon Musk
By Charles E. Milder
This is the amazing story of Elon Musk, who was born in Pretoria, South Africa, 41 years ago. His life story can teach us more about persistent visionary innovation than any textbook. Musk and brother Kimbal left South Africa when Elon was 15; neither wanted to do compulsory army service for the apartheid regime. Since his mother was originally Canadian (born in Saskatchewan, like me), Musk chose Canada, and studied at Queen’s University, in Kingston, Ontario, (my undergrad college), before transferring to Univ. of Pennsylvania. (Elon’s dream was always to reach America, where wild dreams can be made to come true). He studied physics at Penn, then got a scholarship to study at Stanford. He dropped out to launch a Yellow Pages director company, Zip2, sold to Compaq for over $300 m. (Elon’s profit from the deal was $21 m.) Elon saw, just a few years after the World Wide Web was born, how it could replace print city directories.
Elon had big dreams, to tackle “important problems that would most affect the future of humanity”, as he said later — ” the Internet, clean energy, and space”
Internet: He founded a company that was to become PayPal, with the insight that “money is just an entry in a database”. (How many of us are stuck in the rut of money being coins, paper or checks?).
He founded Space X, (Space Exploration), to build commercial rockets. Space X’s Falcon 9 rocket, after initial failures, now has a NASA contract to supply the Space Station, replacing the Space Shuttle. Musk has a dream to create colonies on Mars and the Moon. “I would like to die on Mars”, he has said, “just…not on impact”.
He founded Solar City, which provides photovoltaic cells to generate power, for the roofs of homes and businesses, and is one of the largest power companies in America.
He founded Tesla, the first new car company in decades, to create cool speedy all-electric cars. The Tesla Model S (named after Henry Ford’s Model T) is a family sedan, aimed at a mass market. To make it, Tesla has bought the NUMMI car plant, near San Francisco.
On several occasions, e.g. with Tesla, Musk has put up his own money, down to his last dollar, to keep his companies alive. His $40 m. cash injection kept Tesla alive, after the global recession hit in late 2008, leaving Tesla without money.
What can we learn from this amazing man? First, study physics. The fact that Musk knows physics, as well as computer science and programming, is a big advantage. It enabled him to help guide Space Exploration toward creating a successful rocket, when nations with huge budgets have failed, all this in only 6 years, and to guide Tesla.
Second, go to America. Despite all America’s woes, Silicon Valley (where Musk is based) is still the world’s center for innovation. For example, when Musk decided to develop electric batteries for cars, he found all the expertise he needed not in Detroit, MI, but in Silicon Valley.
Third, one innovative creative daring person can help revitalize an entire industry. GM went bankrupt. Bob Lutz helped revive it, by emulating Musk and competing with Tesla to build the Chevy Volt. He credits Musk with inspiring him and GM. Volt, and some other innovations, have brought GM back from the dead.
De Tocqueville wrote 200 years ago: “Boldness of enterprise is the foremost cause of America’s rapid progress”. Perhaps that is still true.
By Charles E. Milder
This is the amazing story of Elon Musk, who was born in Pretoria, South Africa, 41 years ago. His life story can teach us more about persistent visionary innovation than any textbook. Musk and brother Kimbal left South Africa when Elon was 15; neither wanted to do compulsory army service for the apartheid regime. Since his mother was originally Canadian (born in Saskatchewan, like me), Musk chose Canada, and studied at Queen’s University, in Kingston, Ontario, (my undergrad college), before transferring to Univ. of Pennsylvania. (Elon’s dream was always to reach America, where wild dreams can be made to come true). He studied physics at Penn, then got a scholarship to study at Stanford. He dropped out to launch a Yellow Pages director company, Zip2, sold to Compaq for over $300 m. (Elon’s profit from the deal was $21 m.) Elon saw, just a few years after the World Wide Web was born, how it could replace print city directories.
Elon had big dreams, to tackle “important problems that would most affect the future of humanity”, as he said later — ” the Internet, clean energy, and space”
Internet: He founded a company that was to become PayPal, with the insight that “money is just an entry in a database”. (How many of us are stuck in the rut of money being coins, paper or checks?).
He founded Space X, (Space Exploration), to build commercial rockets. Space X’s Falcon 9 rocket, after initial failures, now has a NASA contract to supply the Space Station, replacing the Space Shuttle. Musk has a dream to create colonies on Mars and the Moon. “I would like to die on Mars”, he has said, “just…not on impact”.
He founded Solar City, which provides photovoltaic cells to generate power, for the roofs of homes and businesses, and is one of the largest power companies in America.
He founded Tesla, the first new car company in decades, to create cool speedy all-electric cars. The Tesla Model S (named after Henry Ford’s Model T) is a family sedan, aimed at a mass market. To make it, Tesla has bought the NUMMI car plant, near San Francisco.
On several occasions, e.g. with Tesla, Musk has put up his own money, down to his last dollar, to keep his companies alive. His $40 m. cash injection kept Tesla alive, after the global recession hit in late 2008, leaving Tesla without money.
What can we learn from this amazing man? First, study physics. The fact that Musk knows physics, as well as computer science and programming, is a big advantage. It enabled him to help guide Space Exploration toward creating a successful rocket, when nations with huge budgets have failed, all this in only 6 years, and to guide Tesla.
Second, go to America. Despite all America’s woes, Silicon Valley (where Musk is based) is still the world’s center for innovation. For example, when Musk decided to develop electric batteries for cars, he found all the expertise he needed not in Detroit, MI, but in Silicon Valley.
Third, one innovative creative daring person can help revitalize an entire industry. GM went bankrupt. Bob Lutz helped revive it, by emulating Musk and competing with Tesla to build the Chevy Volt. He credits Musk with inspiring him and GM. Volt, and some other innovations, have brought GM back from the dead.
De Tocqueville wrote 200 years ago: “Boldness of enterprise is the foremost cause of America’s rapid progress”. Perhaps that is still true.
Sunday, September 23, 2012
Tesla Motors will grow it’s retail presence by Charles E. Milder
By the beginning of December, Tesla Motors will grow it’s retail presence from the current 14 stores in the United States to a total of 24 locations in North America. That’s an impressive amount of expansion in a very short period of time, and all of it is targeted at high-end retail shoppers.
The first new store opens today, at the Roosevelt Field Mall in Garden City, New York. Following this, store openings are planned at upscale retail locations in Boston, Massachusetts; Chicago, Illinois; Paramus, New Jersey; Morristown, New Jersey; San Diego, California; Miami Beach, Florida; McLean, Virginia and Topanga, California.
In November, the brand expands into the Canadian market with the opening of a retail store in Toronto, Ontario. When all of the new stores are completed, Tesla will have a total of 34 showrooms worldwide, and further expansion is planned for 2013.
Each store will have a Tesla Model S premium sedan on the floor, and most will have vehicles available for consumers to test drive. In the words of Tesla’s vice president of worldwide sales, George Blankenship, the goal of the retail stores will be “engaging and informing more people about Tesla and the Model S and the technology behind it.”
In other words, expect stores to deliver no-pressure information to customers, whether they’re seriously shopping for an electric sedan or simply curious about Tesla, the Model S or even electric cars in general. As Blankenship puts it, “We know we’ve done our job when customers leave smiling.”
Noble ideals aside, each location was carefully chosen for its economic demographics. Many of the consumers strolling through The Mall at Short Hills in Morristown, New Jersey, for example, wouldn’t bat an eyelash at spending $60,000 or more on a new car, especially if it one-upped the neighbors.
We think Tesla’s on the right track here, and we’d like nothing better than to see the domestic brand become the first all-electric major global automaker. It's already planning on increasing Model S production, and something tells us that's a sound business decision.
By Charles E. Milder
The first new store opens today, at the Roosevelt Field Mall in Garden City, New York. Following this, store openings are planned at upscale retail locations in Boston, Massachusetts; Chicago, Illinois; Paramus, New Jersey; Morristown, New Jersey; San Diego, California; Miami Beach, Florida; McLean, Virginia and Topanga, California.
In November, the brand expands into the Canadian market with the opening of a retail store in Toronto, Ontario. When all of the new stores are completed, Tesla will have a total of 34 showrooms worldwide, and further expansion is planned for 2013.
Each store will have a Tesla Model S premium sedan on the floor, and most will have vehicles available for consumers to test drive. In the words of Tesla’s vice president of worldwide sales, George Blankenship, the goal of the retail stores will be “engaging and informing more people about Tesla and the Model S and the technology behind it.”
In other words, expect stores to deliver no-pressure information to customers, whether they’re seriously shopping for an electric sedan or simply curious about Tesla, the Model S or even electric cars in general. As Blankenship puts it, “We know we’ve done our job when customers leave smiling.”
Noble ideals aside, each location was carefully chosen for its economic demographics. Many of the consumers strolling through The Mall at Short Hills in Morristown, New Jersey, for example, wouldn’t bat an eyelash at spending $60,000 or more on a new car, especially if it one-upped the neighbors.
We think Tesla’s on the right track here, and we’d like nothing better than to see the domestic brand become the first all-electric major global automaker. It's already planning on increasing Model S production, and something tells us that's a sound business decision.
By Charles E. Milder
Reverse mortgages can be used for any purpose, including a condo purchase by Charles E. Milder
Reverse mortgages can be used for any purpose, including a condo purchase by Charles E. Milder
Reverse mortgages can be used for any purpose, including a condo purchase. The reverse mortgage could provide the funds needed for an all-cash purchase or the proceeds of the reverse mortgage could serve as the down payment to obtain traditional financing. After purchase, the condo could then become a vacation property for a retiree or a source of income.
Home ownership rates are down as a result of the housing crisis and rental rates are rising in almost every market.
Many condo sellers will be trying to find a buyer at almost any price, offering bargains to investors. Many tenants will be looking for housing. The combination offers potential rewards to those looking at innovative strategies to boost their retirement income and the reverse mortgage could offer an innovative financing solution to make the investment possible.
Reverse mortgages can be used for any purpose, including a condo purchase. The reverse mortgage could provide the funds needed for an all-cash purchase or the proceeds of the reverse mortgage could serve as the down payment to obtain traditional financing. After purchase, the condo could then become a vacation property for a retiree or a source of income.
Home ownership rates are down as a result of the housing crisis and rental rates are rising in almost every market.
Many condo sellers will be trying to find a buyer at almost any price, offering bargains to investors. Many tenants will be looking for housing. The combination offers potential rewards to those looking at innovative strategies to boost their retirement income and the reverse mortgage could offer an innovative financing solution to make the investment possible.
Sunday, September 9, 2012
Dont Follow Your Passion, Follow Your Effort by Charles E. Milder
I hear it all the time from people. “I’m passionate about it.” “I’m not going to quit, It’s my passion”. Or I hear it as advice to students and others “Follow your passion”.
What a bunch of BS. ”Follow Your Passion” is easily the worst advice you could ever give or get.
Why ? Because everyone is passionate about something. Usually more than 1 thing. We are born with it. There are always going to be things we love to do. That we dream about doing. That we really really want to do with our lives. Those passions aren’t worth a nickel.
Think about all the things you have been passionate about in your life. Think about all those passions that you considered making a career out of or building a company around. How many were/are there ? Why did you bounce from one to another ? Why were you not able to make a career or business out of any of those passions ? Or if you have been able to have some success, what was the key to the success.? Was it the passion or the effort you put in to your job or company ?
If you really want to know where you destiny lies, look at where you apply your time.
Time is the most valuable asset you don’t own. You may or may not realize it yet, but how you use or don’t use your time is going to be the best indication of where your future is going to take you .
Let me make this as clear as possible
1. When you work hard at something you become good at it.
2. When you become good at doing something, you will enjoy it more.
3. When you enjoy doing something, there is a very good chance you will become passionate or more passionate about it
4. When you are good at something, passionate and work even harder to excel and be the best at it, good things happen.
Don’t follow your passions, follow your effort. It will lead you to your passions and to success, however you define it.
Charles E. Milder
What a bunch of BS. ”Follow Your Passion” is easily the worst advice you could ever give or get.
Why ? Because everyone is passionate about something. Usually more than 1 thing. We are born with it. There are always going to be things we love to do. That we dream about doing. That we really really want to do with our lives. Those passions aren’t worth a nickel.
Think about all the things you have been passionate about in your life. Think about all those passions that you considered making a career out of or building a company around. How many were/are there ? Why did you bounce from one to another ? Why were you not able to make a career or business out of any of those passions ? Or if you have been able to have some success, what was the key to the success.? Was it the passion or the effort you put in to your job or company ?
If you really want to know where you destiny lies, look at where you apply your time.
Time is the most valuable asset you don’t own. You may or may not realize it yet, but how you use or don’t use your time is going to be the best indication of where your future is going to take you .
Let me make this as clear as possible
1. When you work hard at something you become good at it.
2. When you become good at doing something, you will enjoy it more.
3. When you enjoy doing something, there is a very good chance you will become passionate or more passionate about it
4. When you are good at something, passionate and work even harder to excel and be the best at it, good things happen.
Don’t follow your passions, follow your effort. It will lead you to your passions and to success, however you define it.
Charles E. Milder
Sunday, August 26, 2012
SEARS SUCKS! WORST COMPANY IN THE WORLD!
Sears appliance repair is the worst place to get any appliance repaired. They charge extreme prices, then they harass you with more than ten survey questions to your cell phone. If you don't take the survey they will keep calling you many times each day until you take the survey. The only way to get them to stop is to sign on to a web site they give you. It was one of the worst experiences of my life. I would rather have another triple heart bypass than go through that again. Sears sucks, Charles E. Milder
Saturday, August 11, 2012
Adam F. Kelly owes me money and he is not making any attempt to pay me. Charles E. Milder
Adam F. Kelly owes me money and he is not making any attempt to pay me. Charles E. Milder
I finally got $20.00 out of Adam.
I finally got $20.00 out of Adam.
Remember: Success Always Starts Small Charles E. Milder
“The greatest achievement was at first, and for a time, but a dream.” --Napoleon Hill
The largest tree was once a tiny seed. There was a time when Microsoft wasn't on any computers; there was a time when Michael Jordan had never scored in a basketball game. Never despise small beginnings, every success starts small. So stay focused, if your focus is steady, you will succeed! Charles E. Milder
The largest tree was once a tiny seed. There was a time when Microsoft wasn't on any computers; there was a time when Michael Jordan had never scored in a basketball game. Never despise small beginnings, every success starts small. So stay focused, if your focus is steady, you will succeed! Charles E. Milder
You Will Become What You Think About by Charles E. Milder
“The vision that you glorify in your mind, the ideal that you enthrone in your heart, this you will build your life by, and this you will become.” --James Allen, As a Man Thinketh
The thoughts that you harbor in your mind, the ones that you continually give your attention to, those thoughts will eventually become your life.
If you see yourself as a success, then you will become a success; whatever you consistently ponder, you will become.
I have read James Allen's "As A Man Thinket" over 10,000 times and I still learn something new about life every time I read it. Charles E. Milder
The thoughts that you harbor in your mind, the ones that you continually give your attention to, those thoughts will eventually become your life.
If you see yourself as a success, then you will become a success; whatever you consistently ponder, you will become.
I have read James Allen's "As A Man Thinket" over 10,000 times and I still learn something new about life every time I read it. Charles E. Milder
“Tell me what you pay attention to and I will tell you who you are.” Charles E. Milder
“Tell me what you pay attention to and I will tell you who you are.”
Charles E. Milder
Charles E. Milder
Sunday, July 29, 2012
John Karoly Jr is the greatest man I know by Charles Milder
John Karoly Jr will be back and when he comes back he will teach the rat-fink, scum bags to not mess with the Master.
Charles E. Milder
Charles E. Milder
The Choice of the Place you Reside by Charles E. Milder
The place you live affects every dimension of your life, whether or not you acknowledge it. And place includes every dimension of your immediate environment – encompassing the milieu at home, to the exact location in terms of geographic co-ordinates – the latitude and longitude, to the weather, to the people living in your vicinity, to the community life, to the availability of resources, etc. etc. etc.
by Charles E. Milder
by Charles E. Milder
The Choice on the importance you associate with your Personal Health
Your overall health is a function of many things – the key determinants being the diet you consume and the nature of exercise you ensure on a regular basis. Of course, the pre-requisite is that you need to be aware about these two aspects on your every-day life and knowledgeable on how they affect your life. Beyond this, you need to ensure that you invest the required time and effort to eat wisely and exercise regularly.
Chaeles E. Milder
Chaeles E. Milder
The Choices in and of Relationships
The closeness or distances you choose to maintain with family (immediate and beyond) affects your life. In addition, the friends you choose to make and how you choose to nurture these bonds over a period of time impacts your life. More importantly, the choice of your life partner has a significant bearing on how your life will eventually turn out. And lastly, the choice of how you build and nurture other relationships in your personal and professional life makes a difference.
Charles E. Milder
Charles E. Milder
The choice to learn by Charles E. Milder
Learning is a choice which you make consciously or unconsciously. This could be through formal college education (Graduation, Post-Graduation, etc.) or self-learning through reading and books, observation, online tutorials, meaningful discussions, pursuit of hobbies, human interactions, personal experiences, reflections, self-realizations, etc. In the long run, the importance you personally associate with learning and how disciplined you are in your learning efforts can potentially transform your life.
Charles E. Milder
Charles E. Milder
Monday, July 23, 2012
I wanted to tell her
10th grade
As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me. She was my so called "best friend". I stared at her long, silky hair, and wished she was mine. But she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. After class, she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before and handed them to her. She said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
11th grade
The phone rang. On the other end, it was her. She was in tears, mumbling on and on about how her love had broke her heart. She asked me to come over because she didn't want to be alone, so I did. As I sat next to her on the sofa, I stared at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine. After 2 hours, one Drew Barrymore movie, and three bags of chips, she decided to go to sleep. She looked at me, said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Senior year
The day before prom she walked to my locker. My date is sick" she said; he's not going to go well, I didn't have a date, and in 7th grade, we made a promise that if neither of us had dates, we would go together just as "best friends". So we did. Prom night, after everything was over, I was standing at her front door step. I stared at her as she smiled at me and stared at me with her crystal eyes. I want her to be mine, but she isn't think of me like that, and I know it. Then she said "I had the best time, thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Graduation Day
A day passed, then a week, then a month. Before I could blink, it was graduation day. I watched as her perfect body floated like an angel up on stage to get her diploma. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. Before everyone went home, she came to me in her smock and hat, and cried as I hugged her. Then she lifted her head from my shoulder and said, "you're my best friend, thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
A Few Years Later
Now I sit in the pews of the church. That girl is getting married now. I watched her say "I do" and drive off to her new life, married to another man. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't see me like that, and I knew it. But before she drove away, she came to me and said "you came!". She said "thanks" and kissed me on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Funeral
Years passed, I looked down at the coffin of a girl who used to be my "best friend". At the service, they read a diary entry she had wrote in her high school years. This is what it read: I stare at him wishing he was mine, but he doesn't notice me like that, and I know it. I want to tell him, I want him to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love him but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. I wish he would tell me he loved me! `I wish I did too...` I thought to my self, and I cried.
Charles E. Milder
As I sat there in English class, I stared at the girl next to me. She was my so called "best friend". I stared at her long, silky hair, and wished she was mine. But she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. After class, she walked up to me and asked me for the notes she had missed the day before and handed them to her. She said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I wanted to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
11th grade
The phone rang. On the other end, it was her. She was in tears, mumbling on and on about how her love had broke her heart. She asked me to come over because she didn't want to be alone, so I did. As I sat next to her on the sofa, I stared at her soft eyes, wishing she was mine. After 2 hours, one Drew Barrymore movie, and three bags of chips, she decided to go to sleep. She looked at me, said "thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Senior year
The day before prom she walked to my locker. My date is sick" she said; he's not going to go well, I didn't have a date, and in 7th grade, we made a promise that if neither of us had dates, we would go together just as "best friends". So we did. Prom night, after everything was over, I was standing at her front door step. I stared at her as she smiled at me and stared at me with her crystal eyes. I want her to be mine, but she isn't think of me like that, and I know it. Then she said "I had the best time, thanks!" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Graduation Day
A day passed, then a week, then a month. Before I could blink, it was graduation day. I watched as her perfect body floated like an angel up on stage to get her diploma. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't notice me like that, and I knew it. Before everyone went home, she came to me in her smock and hat, and cried as I hugged her. Then she lifted her head from my shoulder and said, "you're my best friend, thanks" and gave me a kiss on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
A Few Years Later
Now I sit in the pews of the church. That girl is getting married now. I watched her say "I do" and drive off to her new life, married to another man. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn't see me like that, and I knew it. But before she drove away, she came to me and said "you came!". She said "thanks" and kissed me on the cheek. I want to tell her, I want her to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love her but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why.
Funeral
Years passed, I looked down at the coffin of a girl who used to be my "best friend". At the service, they read a diary entry she had wrote in her high school years. This is what it read: I stare at him wishing he was mine, but he doesn't notice me like that, and I know it. I want to tell him, I want him to know that I don't want to be just friends, I love him but I'm just too shy, and I don't know why. I wish he would tell me he loved me! `I wish I did too...` I thought to my self, and I cried.
Charles E. Milder
When one door closes, another opens;
When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one that has opened for us. - Alexander Graham Bell
Charles E. Milder
Charles E. Milder
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
Charles E. Milder
Charles E. Milder
"Eleven Hints for Life"
1. It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return.
But what is more painful is to love someone and never
find the courage to let that person know how you feel.
2. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who
means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was
never meant to be and you just have to let go.
3. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a
porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away
feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.
4. It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose
it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been
missing until it arrives.
5. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an
hour to like someone, and a day to love someone-but it
takes a lifetime to forget someone.
6. Don't go for looks, they can deceive. Don't go for wealth,
even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you
smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day
seem bright.
7. Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go,
be what you want to be. Because you have only one life and
one chance to do all the things you want to do.
8. Always put yourself in the other's shoes. If you feel that it
hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.
9. A careless word may kindle strife. A cruel word may wreck
a life. A timely word may level stress. But a loving word may
heal and bless.
10. The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best
of everything they just make the most of everything that comes
along their way.
11. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with
a tear. When you were born, you were crying and everyone
around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die,
you're the one smiling and everyone around you is crying.
But what is more painful is to love someone and never
find the courage to let that person know how you feel.
2. A sad thing in life is when you meet someone who
means a lot to you, only to find out in the end that it was
never meant to be and you just have to let go.
3. The best kind of friend is the kind you can sit on a
porch swing with, never say a word, and then walk away
feeling like it was the best conversation you've ever had.
4. It's true that we don't know what we've got until we lose
it, but it's also true that we don't know what we've been
missing until it arrives.
5. It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an
hour to like someone, and a day to love someone-but it
takes a lifetime to forget someone.
6. Don't go for looks, they can deceive. Don't go for wealth,
even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you
smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day
seem bright.
7. Dream what you want to dream, go where you want to go,
be what you want to be. Because you have only one life and
one chance to do all the things you want to do.
8. Always put yourself in the other's shoes. If you feel that it
hurts you, it probably hurts the person too.
9. A careless word may kindle strife. A cruel word may wreck
a life. A timely word may level stress. But a loving word may
heal and bless.
10. The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best
of everything they just make the most of everything that comes
along their way.
11. Love begins with a smile, grows with a kiss, ends with
a tear. When you were born, you were crying and everyone
around you was smiling. Live your life so that when you die,
you're the one smiling and everyone around you is crying.
dance in the pouring rain
As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let us down, probably will. You'll have your heart broken and you'll break others' hearts. You'll fight with your best friend or maybe even fall in love with them, and you'll cry because time is flying by. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, forgive freely, and love like you've never been hurt. Life comes with no guarantees, no time outs, no second chances. you just have to live life to the fullest, tell someone what they mean to you and tell someone off, speak out, dance in the pouring rain, hold someone's hand, comfort a friend, fall asleep watching the sun come up, stay up late, be a flirt, and smile until your face hurts. Don't be afraid to take chances or fall in love and most of all, live in the moment because every second you spend angry or upset is a second of happiness you can never get back.
Charles E. Milder
Charles E. Milder
Saturday, July 21, 2012
"A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes."
Ghandi is a fascinating person to learn from. One of my favorite quotes and lessons I've learned from him is.
"A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes."
Thoughts are power. Thoughts are like the tracks in front of the train. You lay them ahead of you before you arrive at your destination. If you want to change that destination you need to get your tracks in place first.
Charles E. Milder
"A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes."
Thoughts are power. Thoughts are like the tracks in front of the train. You lay them ahead of you before you arrive at your destination. If you want to change that destination you need to get your tracks in place first.
Charles E. Milder
Monitor Your Beliefs
“Your beliefs become your thoughts. Your thoughts become your words. Your words become your actions. Your actions become your habits. Your habits become your values. Your values become your destiny.”
In short, your beliefs will create your destiny. What do you believe? What do you believe about yourself, your future, and your potential? What you believe, you will surely become.
Charles E. Milder
In short, your beliefs will create your destiny. What do you believe? What do you believe about yourself, your future, and your potential? What you believe, you will surely become.
Charles E. Milder
Whatever you do, you need courage.
Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires some of the same courage that a soldier needs. Peace has its victories, but it takes brave men and women to win them.
Charles E. Milder
Charles E. Milder
Friday, July 20, 2012
Profile of a Sociopath by Charles E. Milder
Profile of a Sociopath
A number of mind-controlling cult leaders may exhibit many of the behavioral characteristics of a sociopath--an outstanding ability to charm and seduce followers. Since they appear apparently normal, they are not easily recognizable as deviant or disturbed. Although only a trained professional can make a diagnosis of whether or not someone is a sociopath, it is important to be able to recognize the personality type in order to avoid further abuse. These traits also apply to a one-on-one cultic relationship.
•Glibness/Superficial Charm
Language can be used without effort by them to confuse and convince their audience. Captivating storytellers that exude self-confidence, they can spin a web that intrigues others. Since they are persuasive, they have the capacity to destroy their critics verbally or emotionally.
•Manipulative and Conning
They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. They dominate and humiliate their victims.
•Grandiose Sense of Self
Feels entitled to certain things as "their right." Craves adulation and attendance. Must be the center of attention with their own fantasies as the "spokesman for God," "enlightened," "leader of humankind," etc. Creates an us-versus-them mentality
•Pathological Lying
Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create, and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and abilities. Extremely convincing and able to pass lie detector tests.
•Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt
A deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at their core. Does not see others around them as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way.
•Shallow Emotions
When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion, it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises.
•Incapacity for Love
While they talk about "God's love" they are unable to give or receive it. Since they do not believe in the genuineness of their followers' love, they are very harsh in testing it from their devotees and expect them to feel guilt for their failings. Expects unconditional surrender.
•Need for Stimulation
Living on the edge, yet testing the beliefs of their followers with bizarre rules, punishments and behaviors. Verbal outbursts and physical punishments are normal.
•Callousness/Lack of Empathy
Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt for others' feelings of distress and readily taking advantage of them. Their skills are used to exploit, abuse and exert power. Since the follower cannot believe their leader would callously hurt them, they rationalize the behavior as necessary for their (or the group's) own "good" and deny the abuse. When devotees become aware of the exploitation it feels like a "spiritual rape" to them.
•Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature
Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others. The followers only see them as near perfect.
•Early Behavioral Problems/Early Juvenile Delinquency
Usually has a history of behavioral and academic difficulties, yet "gets by" by conning others. Problems in making and keeping friends; aberrant behaviors such as cruelty to people or animals, stealing, etc.
•Irresponsibility/Unreliability
Not concerned about wrecking others' lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blame their followers or others outside their group. Blame reinforces passivity and obedience and produces guilt, shame, terror and conformity in the followers.
•Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity
Totalist leaders frequently practice promiscuity, child sexual abuse, rape and sexual acting out of all sorts. This is usually kept hidden from all but the inner circle. Stringent sexual control of their followers, such as forced breakups and divorces, removal of children from parents, rules for dating, etc.
•Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle
Tends to move around a lot or makes all encompassing promises for the future. Many groups claim as their goal world-domination or other utopian promises. Great contrast between the leader's opulent lifestyle and the followers' impoverishment. Support by gifts and donations from the followers who are pressured to give through fear and guilt. Highly sensitive to their own pain and health.
•Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility
Changes their image and that of the group as needed to avoid prosecution and to increase income and to recruit a range of members. Is able to adapt or relocate as needed to preserve the group. Can resurface later with a new name, a new front group and a new twist on the scam.
Charles E. Milder
A number of mind-controlling cult leaders may exhibit many of the behavioral characteristics of a sociopath--an outstanding ability to charm and seduce followers. Since they appear apparently normal, they are not easily recognizable as deviant or disturbed. Although only a trained professional can make a diagnosis of whether or not someone is a sociopath, it is important to be able to recognize the personality type in order to avoid further abuse. These traits also apply to a one-on-one cultic relationship.
•Glibness/Superficial Charm
Language can be used without effort by them to confuse and convince their audience. Captivating storytellers that exude self-confidence, they can spin a web that intrigues others. Since they are persuasive, they have the capacity to destroy their critics verbally or emotionally.
•Manipulative and Conning
They never recognize the rights of others and see their self-serving behaviors permissible. They appear to be charming, yet are covertly hostile and domineering, seeing their victim as merely an instrument to be used. They dominate and humiliate their victims.
•Grandiose Sense of Self
Feels entitled to certain things as "their right." Craves adulation and attendance. Must be the center of attention with their own fantasies as the "spokesman for God," "enlightened," "leader of humankind," etc. Creates an us-versus-them mentality
•Pathological Lying
Has no problem lying coolly and easily and it is almost impossible for them to be truthful on a consistent basis. Can create, and get caught up in, a complex belief about their own powers and abilities. Extremely convincing and able to pass lie detector tests.
•Lack of Remorse, Shame or Guilt
A deep seated rage, which is split off and repressed, is at their core. Does not see others around them as people, but only as targets and opportunities. Instead of friends, they have victims and accomplices who end up as victims. The end always justifies the means and they let nothing stand in their way.
•Shallow Emotions
When they show what seems to be warmth, joy, love and compassion, it is more feigned than experienced and serves an ulterior motive. Outraged by insignificant matters, yet remaining unmoved and cold by what would upset a normal person. Since they are not genuine, neither are their promises.
•Incapacity for Love
While they talk about "God's love" they are unable to give or receive it. Since they do not believe in the genuineness of their followers' love, they are very harsh in testing it from their devotees and expect them to feel guilt for their failings. Expects unconditional surrender.
•Need for Stimulation
Living on the edge, yet testing the beliefs of their followers with bizarre rules, punishments and behaviors. Verbal outbursts and physical punishments are normal.
•Callousness/Lack of Empathy
Unable to empathize with the pain of their victims, having only contempt for others' feelings of distress and readily taking advantage of them. Their skills are used to exploit, abuse and exert power. Since the follower cannot believe their leader would callously hurt them, they rationalize the behavior as necessary for their (or the group's) own "good" and deny the abuse. When devotees become aware of the exploitation it feels like a "spiritual rape" to them.
•Poor Behavioral Controls/Impulsive Nature
Rage and abuse, alternating with small expressions of love and approval produce an addictive cycle for abuser and abused, as well as creating hopelessness in the victim. Believe they are all-powerful, all-knowing, entitled to every wish, no sense of personal boundaries, no concern for their impact on others. The followers only see them as near perfect.
•Early Behavioral Problems/Early Juvenile Delinquency
Usually has a history of behavioral and academic difficulties, yet "gets by" by conning others. Problems in making and keeping friends; aberrant behaviors such as cruelty to people or animals, stealing, etc.
•Irresponsibility/Unreliability
Not concerned about wrecking others' lives and dreams. Oblivious or indifferent to the devastation they cause. Does not accept blame themselves, but blame their followers or others outside their group. Blame reinforces passivity and obedience and produces guilt, shame, terror and conformity in the followers.
•Promiscuous Sexual Behavior/Infidelity
Totalist leaders frequently practice promiscuity, child sexual abuse, rape and sexual acting out of all sorts. This is usually kept hidden from all but the inner circle. Stringent sexual control of their followers, such as forced breakups and divorces, removal of children from parents, rules for dating, etc.
•Lack of Realistic Life Plan/Parasitic Lifestyle
Tends to move around a lot or makes all encompassing promises for the future. Many groups claim as their goal world-domination or other utopian promises. Great contrast between the leader's opulent lifestyle and the followers' impoverishment. Support by gifts and donations from the followers who are pressured to give through fear and guilt. Highly sensitive to their own pain and health.
•Criminal or Entrepreneurial Versatility
Changes their image and that of the group as needed to avoid prosecution and to increase income and to recruit a range of members. Is able to adapt or relocate as needed to preserve the group. Can resurface later with a new name, a new front group and a new twist on the scam.
Charles E. Milder
THE BAD SEED
My Father was a rotten person. I could tell you stories that would make your hair stand on end, but this is not about him, he has been dead for over forty years. The problem is his seed that spread to his children and runs in the veins of my children. There must be a bad seed that can be spread through a blood line. The evidence is mounting and the world would have been a much better place if he was never born.
Charles E. Milder
Charles E. Milder
Sociopathy
Sociopathy is the result of social conditioning which leads to a lack of natural human values. It refers strictly to a social condition where a person knows, yet has been socially conditioned to disregard, the intrinsic human values which are believed to be universal.
You need to learn the signs-there is at least one in your life right now. One out of one hundred people are socipaths. They cannot be cured and they cannot be helped. The only way to deal with a socipath is to get them out of your life.
Charles E. Milder
You need to learn the signs-there is at least one in your life right now. One out of one hundred people are socipaths. They cannot be cured and they cannot be helped. The only way to deal with a socipath is to get them out of your life.
Charles E. Milder
Create Value
“Strive not to be a success, but rather to be of value."
Don’t waste your time trying to be successful, spend your time creating value. If you’re valuable, then you will attract success.
Discover the talents and gifts that you possess, learn how to offer those talents and gifts in a way that most benefits others.
Labor to be valuable and success will chase you down.
Charles E. Milder
Don’t waste your time trying to be successful, spend your time creating value. If you’re valuable, then you will attract success.
Discover the talents and gifts that you possess, learn how to offer those talents and gifts in a way that most benefits others.
Labor to be valuable and success will chase you down.
Charles E. Milder
The Imagination is Powerful
“Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life's coming attractions. Imagination is more important than knowledge.”
Are you using your imagination daily? Einstein said the imagination is more important than knowledge! Your imagination pre-plays your future. Einstein went on to say, “The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge, but imagination.” Are you exercising your “imagination muscles” daily, don’t let something as powerful as your imagination lie dormant. If you can dream it then it can come true.
Charles E. Milder
Are you using your imagination daily? Einstein said the imagination is more important than knowledge! Your imagination pre-plays your future. Einstein went on to say, “The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge, but imagination.” Are you exercising your “imagination muscles” daily, don’t let something as powerful as your imagination lie dormant. If you can dream it then it can come true.
Charles E. Milder
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